“You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will”Stephen King
We have all been at that point where we don’t feel brave enough to just start. It follows a feeling of incompleteness. There is something missing and you long for change. You might know exactly what needs to happen: that thing that will make it better, easier, or the way it always should have been. But…it won’t happen, not to you. Either you don’t deserve it, you’re not good enough, or there is too much in the way, holding you back.
Imagine if you knew that it could happen and how. Imagine if you had the confidence to set realistic goals and realise your potential. If only you felt empowered enough to make it happen.
“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any”Alice Walker
Self-empowerment is about having the strength and confidence to do what you you believe is right. It’s in you, it’s in all of us.
This isn’t a sales pitch. Or a marketing ploy. It’s a straight-talking blog post on you can feel more empowered, because sometimes, just changing how we think about ourselves is all we need to make a difference to how we act, what we do and what we get out of life.
Here are 7 ways that you can – this week – start your journey to greater self-empowerment:
1. Look After Yourself
It sounds a bit basic and that’s because it is, yet we often forget to look after ourselves and it catches up on us. To project your best self, it’s up to you to look after your whole self. This includes both your physical health and your mental health. Just as plants need sunlight, soil and water, we need to be active, eat well, get enough sleep and tune into our emotional well-being.
2. Know That You Can
Those who believe, do. Waiting can make us virtuous, but it rarely keeps us fulfilled. Recognise any self-limiting beliefs you may be carrying. These include the “I can’t” / “I’m not” / “I won’t” statements you tell yourself based on past experience, education, relationships or fears. Explore those beliefs and the logic behind them. Now replace them with new beliefs, or affirmations. Remind yourself of the possibilities, not the barriers.
3. Be Grateful
Gratitude is a key aspect of positive thinking and something I have blogged about before. Being empowered requires a growth, rather than a fixed mindset. If you find yourself focusing on what you are unhappy with in your life, try dedicating time to think about what is going well. It could be that you note down something that goes well each day, or you take a moment to appreciate all that you are grateful for in your life. It’s simple and it is a great way to gain perspective in difficult moments.
4. Talk About It
Bottling up feelings can hold us back, especially when those feelings are self-limiting or affect relationships that are important to us. Talking to someone about something that has been on your mind, whether it’s with the person it involves, or with someone who is there to listen, can be liberating. We all have baggage, but we will have a better journey if we share the load.
5. Embrace Change
You’ve heard that the only real constant is change? Managing change and how people react to it has been a significant part of my career. I have found that we are all capable of transitioning through change. The key is to relate your own needs with the change and to use that relationship to take control of your reactions. Having more control of how change impacts you gives you more control, which in turn enables you to become more empowered.
6. Accept the Ups & Downs
Whether you think of it as successes and failures, or twists and turns, once you accept that life isn’t plain sailing and that it isn’t your fault, it can become easier to appreciate the ups and get through the downs. Nobody sails plainly, life presents us with many challenges and we are all on our own journey. Allowing ourselves to learn, move forward and not live in the past, can help us to achieve inner peace.
7. Empower Others
If you could stop someone from falling, would you take the opportunity to be part of how they grow? One of the most empowering things you can do is to empower somebody else. If you are a parent, share a new skill with your child. If you manage a team, allow them the opportunity to be autonomous. If your friend is considering a new hobby, motivate them to embrace it. In whatever you do, look for ways to mentor, teach, trust and encourage others.
Empowerment can sound grand, but actually all it is about is being yourself. How you express yourself, identify yourself, allow yourself to be yourself…this all ultimately makes you, the empowered you. With the strength and confidence to try new experiences and explore your potential, the world becomes a more exciting place and you become a happier you.